Your Non-Traditional Wedding

I have some tips that will be helpful in pointing you in the right direction whether you are thinking of having a traditional wedding with your own twist or you want to have something completely out of the box. Following some or all of these guidelines will be helpful in getting you to your desired outcome in planning your very own unique and offbeat wedding.

Tip 1: Be honest with yourself: The first thing you want to do is to take stock of who you are. That may sound silly because it seems so obvious, but it isn’t. It is important for you to know who you are and what is most important to you because that is what will help you make the decisions you need to make. Most couples are taken off guard when they start planning their wedding whether traditional or not. They find themselves being pulled in so many directions because of all the ideas being placed before them, so much that they get confused about what it is they themselves want. Knowing who you are will help you stay true to yourself and what it is that you really want your wedding to look like.

Tip 2: Don’t let anyone tell you what you should or should not do: Every one has an idea of what they think you should do.Thoughts about how to choose your colors, your wedding gown, what’s currently in, right down to how you should wear your hair or if you should wear the queens’ tiara. Remember though that no one knows you as well as you know yourself, so really at the end of the day, you alone can decide what suits you best and what reflects you most accurately.

Tip 3: Be true to yourself: If you like bright colors, use them. If you think race cars are the coolest thing ever or you love the idea of riding a Harley to your wedding, wearing sneakers, a top hat or a color that is otherwise considered taboo, then embrace that and use it to express yourself. This might sound a lot like I am talking about shock factor, but what I am really talking about is authenticity. Be yourself because there is only one of you and that is what will make your event unique. No one else can be you no matter how much they try. What better way to be original than that?

Tip 4: Avoid making any decisions out of fear: It is impossible to make good decisions under pressure or the fear of making a good or bad decision. Make sure to give yourself the time to think through your options with no pressure or any induced fears.

Tip 5: Allow yourself to think outside the box: It might seem difficult to figure out how you can pull off all the ideas you have but if you are willing to be creative and to think outside the box, you will be surprised what you come up with.

Tip 6: Don’t get preoccupied with what others expect or think you should do: Understanding that you cannot please everyone is going to give you an enormous amount of freedom in the process of planning your offbeat wedding your way! It is necessary to make peace with the fact that you will not be able to please everyone. This is not a license for you to become a Bridezilla, it is just so that you know that it is okay for you to make decisions that you are happy with even when others aren’t.

Tip 7: Understand that this is a process and it is also a growing experience. You don’t plan weddings everyday so naturally you will find a few things about the process challenging. That is okay, it doesn’t have to ruin your entire experience. Making peace with the nature of the process will help you to deal with it and enjoy it.

Tip 8: Don’t be afraid to do some research and to get help from experts: Most wedding planners are happy to consult with you and to help you with your process. They are often happy to give you a free consultation in which you can ask for advice and help for when you are having trouble with pulling off some part of your plan.